Why “Doing the Work” Doesn’t Mean You Never Struggle Again

The Myth of Permanent Healing

Somewhere along the way, we started believing that “doing the work” means we should reach a point where we’re unshakable — no triggers, no bad days, no setbacks. But real healing doesn’t erase your humanity. It deepens it.

Growth doesn’t mean you stop struggling; it means your self-awareness grows stronger than your self-sabotage. You start noticing your patterns sooner, recovering faster, and speaking to yourself more gently when you fall back into old habits.

Progress Over Perfection

Even therapists, coaches, and “healed” people have days that undo them. The goal isn’t to never lose your footing — it’s to trust that you can find your balance again.

Healing is cyclical. You’ll revisit old lessons at new levels of maturity. You’ll still feel things deeply, but they won’t destroy you the way they once did. That’s the quiet evidence of progress.